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posted on 2004-4-5 at 05:42
while i do appreciate the sentiment, i'm not really looking for advice. a much as i make myself out to be a bumbling idiot, for some reason
what i do works. i'm consistently surprising myself with the calibre of females i've gotten to be a part of my life.
the reason i posted this thread was just out of curiosity. i'm a serial people-watcher. a social voyuer with a natural penchant for the
psychoogy of attraction and interaction. my methods of attracting the opposite sex [and platonically the same sex] are so abstract and unorthodox
that i find myself curious as to the methods and thoughts of the people around me.
humour me with a little insight into your lives.
[Edited on 5-4-04 by mr. dobalina]
Amid the chaos of that day, when all I could hear was the thunder of gunshots, and all I could smell was the violence in the air, I look back and am
amazed that my thoughts were so clear and true, that three words went through my mind endlessly, repeating themselves like a broken record:
you're so cool, you're so cool, you're so cool. And sometimes Clarence asks me what I would have done if he had died, if that bullet
had been two inches more to the left. To this, I always smile, as if I'm not going to satisfy him with a response. But I always do. I tell him
of how I would want to die, but that the anguish and the want of death would fade like the stars at dawn, and that things would be much as they are
now. Perhaps. Except maybe I wouldn't have named our son Elvis.
SideO_JR
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 06:03
Quite a good topic you have started dobs, hopefull i am not just catching the end of it
I really am more of a shy boy then i let across. I don't think i have ever made the first move to a girl, I am quite shocked that they always
make the effort while i just st there and, well do what i do. I really do use cheesy homur once i notice the flirting, but it seems to work
I don't like the theory that"9older guys are more mature and have more experience" everybody is different, and i wish there
wasn't sterotypes like that
honestly, when i hear of a 20 year old going out with a 15 year old it kinda creeps me oiut. I don't mean to offend anyone thahs been ina
relationship like this, but what, really, is that person trying o accomplish?
hmm, when i read this at first i ad so many things to say but i can't think of anything now.
How do you communicate those emotions that are so intense that no physical expression or series of words can even scratch the surface?
mi
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 06:49
alrighty... its getting late, but i had to post here eventually.
I can be incredibly shy or, moderately outgoing, depending on my mood, the atmosphere around me and who I'm with. However i have several
different reactions to people. If i find myself attracted to someone, i tend to dwell upon it and not act, eventually finding myself chickening out.
Yet, sometimes an inner motivation moves me to interact with someone.
In my past the majority of the people i have met have been through other people, or school. This makes life a tad bit simplier as you could have a
friend slowly introduce you to someone, or you may find yourself becoming attracted to a classmate that you occassionally talk to. However in both
scenarios it takes the intiative of one person to start something more. Talking about things in common, laughing sometimes, just enjoying one anothers
company.
MSN messenger seems to be a great help with ensuring that you talk, and making plans ensures that you will see one another again. I have found that a
lot of people i know have a fear of phones, to them it is more intimidating to pick up a phone and call someone, then it would be to send an instant
message. If you become closer, then chances are making a phone call will eventually get easier (unless nervousness kicks in, in which case, it is
extrememely difficult to find the courage sometimes).
I don't really think i have much of an attraction to older men. I don't think age has much to do with attraction for me. But I do think
that there is a limit for age difference.... i think that 4 or 5 years difference is too much, especially at my age, it just doesnt feel right.
Another matter of interest is the theory that girls will go for "bad guys" and try to fix them. i don't think i entirely agree with
this, but then again i've seen it happen.
the act of sacraficing bitter memories
i cant bring myself to fogive you, i cant force myself to fogive you, i cant bring myself to forgive you
armour_guitarist
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 09:09
Yeah i am one of those shy(ish) "nice" guys. well of course you all know that... it's not that i am really all that shy, i have tons
of friends of both genders, just not in a romantic way. Reivax, i think i have a lot in common with you.
Some things take more than a lifetime.
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 12:09
Confession:
I am a phone whore...
But, y'all already knew that.
On with the topic, I agree with some of the stuff Amanda said, and really reading all of this thread gives me some more info about people that I did
not know existed..it's a great thing..
you won't let me down...
SideO_JR
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 14:15
I think the internet kind of killed relationships for kids our age. Really, my sister disgusts me with the fact that she actually meets people on
chats/ or msn or something and they meet and they actually internet date. Its the stupidest thing i have ever seen. "Can we go out so i can
put I Love You as my msn name and then about a week later we can fight, not sure about what tho since we have no relationship, maybe you can call my
mom down. plese consider
How do you communicate those emotions that are so intense that no physical expression or series of words can even scratch the surface?
Jeff K
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 16:07
I know what you're saying about being a 'serial people watcher' Dobs. I've always found it interesting to see how people
interact and what makes them tick.
Maybe you should be a psychologist or anthropologist.
