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posted on 2004-4-4 at 12:07
reeling 'em in
how do you attract the opposite sex??
do you have a 'pick-up line'? do you hae a specific 'ice-breaker'? do you play coy?
please share. explain.
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you're so cool, you're so cool, you're so cool. And sometimes Clarence asks me what I would have done if he had died, if that bullet
had been two inches more to the left. To this, I always smile, as if I'm not going to satisfy him with a response. But I always do. I tell him
of how I would want to die, but that the anguish and the want of death would fade like the stars at dawn, and that things would be much as they are
now. Perhaps. Except maybe I wouldn't have named our son Elvis.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 15:30
Tryin' to pick up tips eh Joel?...haha.
I've never had to use a pick-up line...then again, I'm quite the youngster AND I'm a girl.
I used quite the old-fashioned type of person, I expected the guy to make the first move and whatever. Then I got into my last relationship
which lasted a little over a year, and all hell broke loose haha.
Speaking for myself here would make me sound self-centered, so I guess I could talk about what my guy friends say is attractive about me that makes
them like me? I don't know...
Some of the things I've heard is that I'm someone who can strike up a conversation with anyone, seriously, even if I'm not
interested in the person 'love-wise' I'll still talk to them and maybe even make a couple of new acquaintances along the line.
Another thing I've been told makes guys attracted to me is the fact that I'm apparently 'mature beyond my years'? (I
don't think so..but that's what I've heard)
Looks have never taken a part on it...like yeah, at bars guys will randomly come up and say "You're really pretty" BUT it's a
bar, you cannot expect them to be serious hah. I've looked past the whole "I wish I were goodlooking" mindset, I've just come
to the conclusion that I'm not bad looking, but I'm not goodlooking either..just..'decent'. And, to live with that and suck
it up haha.
Some guys DO find my looks attractive though, and it gives them the initiative to talk to me in the first place.
If I had to pick something that I personally try to do when I meet someone I could be potentially interested in though, it'd have to be
conversation for sure. Most of the time it works to my advantage. I'm a very social person, and quite aware of what's going on around me,
if someone wants to talk about politics (though, at bars or clubs this doesn't really happen) I can do that, literature, yeah I guess I can do
that, news in general, sure, sports, of course..you know..stuff like that. The thing with me though is that I get bored quite easily.Unless this guy
is very social and actually talks instead of just sitting there like a bum on the log, I'll probably walk away.
Then again, I should probably add that most of the guys/men (Yes..if you're over 19 you're a MAN,dammit) that I've met have been
either at clubs or bars, which is not the best place to meet people, at all. I enjoy meeting people at coffeeshops a lot more.
Anyway..something tells me I've gone completely offtopic here, so I'll shut up now.
(Reads first post again)
No real ice-breakers...
I guess that the point I was trying to make about being old-fashioned is that I used to wait for guys to make the move, now I find myself walking up
to guys to introduce myself,haha. A smile and firm handshake is usually all it takes...then it all goes from there, including free drinks..yessss!
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 15:59
Copious amounts of pelvus thrusting never fails.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 17:24
I dont have pick up lines, i just be my cute loveable opinated self, and hopefullly it gets me action! haha Jokes
i havent had a BF in a while, i am told i am 2 picky, but really i am not
but i am looking is any hot single guys are out there...hehe
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 18:02
I say you should just talk to the person casually and find out if you think there's a potential for there to be any connection. There's
no sense in persuing a girl/guy if you don't think you can connect personally.
If you think there's a connection, try and talk about some things you have in common. Maybe you share some interests or hobbies. If you
don't know what they're interested in, ask them.
Over and above everything else, be confident and be yourself!
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 18:04
Do boys flirt ? I'm sure its a girls only thing? And you just try to play along without looking too much of an ass.
I've never had a girlfriend, so something must be going horribly wrong.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 18:05
Body language is key. That's the point I forgot to make on the above ramble post...
And...
Yeah, I forgot to ask...if this you subliminally trying to get advice on how to win the heart of Sarah Taylor..
If so..you know it's a given.
DO IT! We're all waiting for the recap of what happened should you ever actually attempt to go out with her.
Edit:
Guys SO flirt! They just do it on a completely different way.
[Edited on 4-4-04 by little_lady]
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 18:09
quotation:Originally posted by Jeff K
I say you should just talk to the person casually and find out if you think there's a potential for there to be any connection. There's
no sense in persuing a girl/guy if you don't think you can connect personally.
If you think there's a connection, try and talk about some things you have in common. Maybe you share some interests or hobbies. If you
don't know what they're interested in, ask them.
Over and above everything else, be confident and be yourself!
[Edited on 4-4-04 by Jeff K]
I agree, sharing the same interests is a must. Think about an arts student dating a science student.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 18:58
invariably the people you think are interested in you aren't, and the people who you don't think are interested are. well, perhaps not
invariably, but often. ok, sometimes.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 21:00
I've never had to use a pickup line or anything along those lines. My whole life I took the shy guy/ nice guy approach, I guess. Or basically
acted as myself and waited for a girl to be interested in me. It takes a long time, but it happens.
And, of course, you need to have similar interests and personalities. It's good to be friends first, I think.
One thing I noticed, though, is that girls always want someone older. So, if you're just an average young person in high school, you're
pretty fucked. When I was in grade nine, all the girls that did date, dated the guys in grades 11-13. Also, even though I don't think woman are
interested in me, they are surely alot more so now then when I was 16. I don't think I have ever flirted with a girl, or truly felt like another
one liked me....well, except for the one I am marrying.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 21:10
Yeah...I'm a victim of the "older guy" syndrome.
I just cannot possibly date someone my age, because my stereotype of them if that they are selfish,immature little bastards who act like children.
But..I'm sure there's an exception to every rule, and I could come across someone my own age who has what I tend to find
(maturity,intellect) wise in an older guy.
...my ex was 19. That should tell you something.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 21:16
It's a shame for the nice, young fellows. Because they really aren't all like that. It's pretty easy to spot out the nice ones.
Woman just aren't interested.
It's a proven biological mechinism that women will generally want someone older than they are. This is a bit stereotypical so please note that
these are not my views on women or how women should be.
In the past, having an older man meant that there was a better chance that a woman would be supported in her life, both financially and emotionally.
Emotionally because men tend to mature slower than women, so it stands to reason an older man would be more mature.
And yes, guys do flirt, it's just in a different way. I know I do.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 22:39
I like older guys personally
I find guys my age to be to immature and not very focused
Older guys have more experinces and now how to treat a girl and what not..
so ya..
I am like that cuz i am a pretty focused girl, i know what i want and stuff like that
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 22:45
The whole "immature" thing I don't really buy. Do you honestly feel that every younger guy is immature? I know when I was younger
that most of the guys I knew were very mature and focused...and just downright decent. It's got to be more than that.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 22:51
With me it goes a bit further than that, and I have no idea why the hell I'm about to say this on the internet...but...part of the catch is that
older guys tend to "know what they're doing"...because they've most likely have had more experience.
I enjoy being with someone to whom not many things are foreign, and has a higher knowledge and understanding of things...and this obviously is not to
be taken in just a sexual manner, but also in every other way possible.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 23:01
you really want to be with a guy who's "done it all before"? what's exciting about that?
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 23:09
Whooaaaa...
Naw-uh. Let's not put words into my mouth here darling.
I never said I wanted to date a man-slut. Where would be the thrill in that? It would just be boring to him, and weird with me..correct? Yes.
Now that I've read my post for the second time I see that I didn't exactly word out my comment on the best way possible haha..but I
didn't by any means try to imply that I'm looking for some type of guy who's done it all before and 'got around' with
who knows how many girls, it would just make me feel like one more in the bunch, as weird as that sounds.
I guess my problem is with little boys..in general.
For some reason, part of the whole deal with girls wanting older guys (at least in my own personal opinion) has to do with security as well. You just
feel much more at ease with someone who is older, and somehow feel somewhat protected or whatever.
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posted on 2004-4-4 at 23:12
The protectd and security thing makes sense..I believe that. I still stick by my opinion on the "immature" factor.
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 00:37
I have a thing for older guys too. I can't help it. I've just given up on guys my age. I just think they are too close-minded about
things. For example: The last time I dated a guy my own age, we broke up because he was pissed off at the fact that I listened to rock music, and he
thought it was "gay and that all girls should be "thugettes"". Which is the STUPIDEST thing I've ever heard. I get that
not all guys my age are like that...but at my school, the majority of them are.
I don't really have a pick up line...but if I wanna talk to a guy I usually start off the conversation by complimenting them. And I'm
always the one to make the first move because I am very impatient, and when I want something I *will* have it. Determination and confidence is all it
takes, my friends.
[Edited on 5-4-04 by Paige_x0x]
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woman... the Goddess. Goldie. She says her name is Goldie.
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 00:44
is there something that you do in order to draw the attention from a stranger?
how do you get a stranger who catches your eye into a conversation?
Amid the chaos of that day, when all I could hear was the thunder of gunshots, and all I could smell was the violence in the air, I look back and am
amazed that my thoughts were so clear and true, that three words went through my mind endlessly, repeating themselves like a broken record:
you're so cool, you're so cool, you're so cool. And sometimes Clarence asks me what I would have done if he had died, if that bullet
had been two inches more to the left. To this, I always smile, as if I'm not going to satisfy him with a response. But I always do. I tell him
of how I would want to die, but that the anguish and the want of death would fade like the stars at dawn, and that things would be much as they are
now. Perhaps. Except maybe I wouldn't have named our son Elvis.
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 00:52
I'll make eye-contact. I tend to be good with that somehow..it's not intimidating, just flirty.
If it's someone I feel somehow really interested in somehow, I'll think of some excuse to casually walk by them, or sit near to wherever
they are sitting, orrrrr..if I'm feeling extremely confident (which I tend to) I'll just walk up to the person, and introduce myself.
Smiling is key.
But...I have a problem with winking at people from across the room...tends to work against me instead of in my favour, it just makes me seem as if I
"want" them...so, I tend to stay away from that.
It's really easy for me to strike up conversations though..I don't know what exactly I say, but it ends up turning into quite a nice chat.
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 02:11
quotation:Originally posted by little_lady
man-slut.
that's not what i meant. you said you are interested in guys who have been in a million relationships before. i mean "it all" in
that way.
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posted on 2004-4-5 at 02:17
Hey Dobalina there is no set, proven method of attracting the opposite sex. You've just gotta put your best foot forward. Look inside yourself
for the answer, not on a message board and I mean that in the nicest, most sensitive way.
